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The Food Snob

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  • Beer.
  • Tea.
  • Soup.
  • Molten chocolate cake.
  • Lobster.
  • Fish.
  • Crab.
  • Tiramisu.
  • Mousse.
  • Home-made mac and cheese.
  • Clam chowder.
  • Chile rellenos.
  • Pancakes.
  • Pastrami.

What do all of these foods have in common? These are things that I’ve only started liking within the last year–many within the last 3 months.

Why do you care? Well, you probably don’t! But The Pioneer Woman can get away with making lists, and I feel like I can make lists that rank up with the best list-makers out there.

These foods are actually accomplishments of which I’m very proud. My whole life I’ve been a picky eater–and often I still am. Well, guess what?

I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore! (name that movie!)

I can’t for the life of me figure out why I would force myself to not like something or not, at the very least, try something. Where was my head?

It seems that one day I just got sick of being so picky. I didn’t like having to tell waiters to leave off a certain ingredient, or to have three dinner rolls and a small pile of turkey on my plate at Thanksgiving. It got tiring being the person everyone had to accommodate.

And, yes, being a picky eater was much better for my waistline. But still. It’s like I’ve been introduced to new friends! The kind of friend that even if you don’t see her for months or years, you can come back together like you were never apart. It’s easy between us now.

Plus, this goes with my goal to try new things and be adventurous. And I’m well on my way!

Just for the record, here are some foods that I still don’t like, but maybe one day we’ll get to know each other better and forge a trusting relationship:

  • Wine.
  • Onions.
  • Tomatoes.
  • Yogurt.
  • Shrimp.
  • Scallops.
  • Mushrooms.
  • Peas.
  • Asparagus.
  • Cabbage.
  • Whipped cream.

So please, if you’re a picky eater, and you really don’t understand why you still are, go ahead and try a new food for me. Just give it a shot. I promise you’ll come across something new to love that you weren’t open to before.

– Allegra

P.S. I also don’t understand adventurous picky eaters. You know, someone who jumps out of a plane for the heck of it but grimaces at the thought of eating something with sour cream on it. You know who you are.

Water weight and a liquid diet

I know I’m not fat. But that doesn’t mean I’m comfortable in my skin these days.

If you’ve followed my progress toward getting back to what I believe to be a comfortable size for me, you know that I’ve been working out regularly–in fact, relentlessly–at a studio specializing in Ballerobica classes, the fusion between ballet strength and toning and aerobics. Now I’m averaging 9 hours a week! In fact, I fully expect to win the studio’s New Year Fitness Challenge–each class is worth a certain amount of points, then you subtract one point for every dessert you have over the challenge–January 1 through February 13. I have 168 points–they’ll be handing me my 3 free ballerobica DVDs any day now (even if I do win because no one else has turned in their points yet). I’ve been working my butt off (literally) and I deserve the prize!

Anyway, I’ve decided on an additional weight loss goal for the month of March. It’s kind of a diet plan, but I don’t plan on being meticulous about food–obviously I’ll eat healthy, but I’m not going to starve myself or give up foods I absolutely love. I’ve heard that drinking a lot of water is healthy, right? At first I intended to drink only water for the entire month of March. But that’s just not realistic, so I widened my scope.

March Liquid Diet:

1. water

2. flavored carbonated waters (for when I feel like I need a pop, I really like Cascade Ice waters, and I only like the flavors that have 2 calories or less anyway)

3. tea (many have little to no calories)

4. protein shakes (I’ve been drinking these for breakfast)

5. alcoholic drinks at social functions, but here’s the caveat: for each drink, I must have a glass of water

Basically I’m avoiding soda, juice, milk, and any other higher-calorie beverages for the month of March. I figure it is an easy way to cut back on unnecessary calories that will still allow me to eat some of my favorite foods without too much guilt.

Is this idea completely crazy? What weight-loss strategies have you tried? How do you hold yourself to them?

I’ll keep you updated on my progress!

Stay healthy!


P.S. I’ve lost 7 pounds (from all the ballerobica), and my calves are fantastically toned! Now I just need that to make its way up the rest of my body.


“Career Move Mondays” – Building a Business

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I’ll try not to make this post too cryptic, but since this blog is intended to give us some anonymity, I can’t reveal specific details. Sorry!

Here is the first thing you should know: I decorate cakes.

Here is the second thing you should know: I don’t want to open a bakery.

A few years ago I started taking cake decorating classes. I absolutely fell in love with decorating cakes. Sitting down with some frosting and fondant and creating something beautiful is one of my favorite things to do. I find it both relaxing and challenging–when everything is going right, I get into a groove and out of nowhere 7 hours have gone by, but when everything is going wrong–which is likely to happen when using food to look like it’s not food–it can be hell.

A while after I took the classes I kept making cakes for friends and family to practice, and I eventually became a cake decorating instructor. I absolutely loved my students and seeing what creations they came up with. But there is a little red tape involved in working for not just one, but two companies, and I couldn’t stand that.

I eventually began to develop my own idea for a business, and pursued it particularly after I graduated college last spring. I got the business cards, the website and some marketing materials, I planned the classes I would teach, and even had a small grand opening celebration/test class with family and friends.

Everything went great. All my students thought it was a fantastic idea for a business and they all learned something new. However, not one of them booked a future class. And supposedly they liked it? Seems a little fishy.

Anyway, from the beginning I expected this endeavor to just be a part-time side job, and concentrated on finding a full-time job. Check! So what’s happened to my business? I haven’t done even one paid class. And I didn’t have the momentum to push the business.

Although I didn’t put as much money into my business as many budding entrepreneurs do, I certainly don’t want all the effort I did make to go to waste–plus, I still think I have a good idea on my hands.

So this is the year of my business. I’m giving it a chance.

First of all, I’m reformatting. There had to be a reason I couldn’t even get friends to book a class…money? convenience? difficulty of the material? the types of classes?

So I’m reconsidering everything. Overall, the business model will remain the same. But I’ve already got a few ideas in the works for something new and improved.

But the way I’m really going to push myself is by applying for a student entrepreneurship grant through the university I work for–and technically I’m still a student, so I qualify. Many of the other students I would be competing against really need the seed funding–many of their businesses are highly technological. While some money would be nice, I’m applying for this to receive the guidance and advice from entrepreneurial experts.

Over the next few months I’ll be attending info sessions and submitting a concept proposal in the hopes that someone else sees the value and potential of my business. Wish me luck!

Oh, and by the way, HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

We love you!

– Allegra


“Career Move Mondays” – Pigeon-holed

Welcome to the new series we’re starting called “Career Move Mondays.” We are each at the point in our careers where we’re looking to get in on the ground floor, looking to get into a new industry, or just make strides in what we’re doing. So this series will be a forum for our adventures and musings in the world of work–something we can all relate to. So here we go…

I’ve barely started my career (or is this just a job?) and already I can easily see myself becoming pigeon-holed into one industry, unable to try something new in the future because everything requires experience.

Unfortunately, aside from blogging about whatever I want, I can’t think of a paying gig (and this doesn’t even pay) that I can create and mold to encompass all my passions.

I love writing. I love teaching. I love decorating cakes. I love psychology. I love people. I love books. I love interior design. I love organization. I love cheese.

And I’m expected to just pick one???

I can’t viably have a new career every month. So how can I prepare myself to be a competitive candidate wherever I choose to go?

I’m thinking of using my entries in the “Career Move Mondays” series to explore various fields that I’m interested in, with the hopes that we all get something from it? What do you think?

Tell me, friends, how were you able to transition to a new field? Did you have to start from scratch–get a new degree, start at the bottom rung in the industry? How were you able to use your experience as a plus when breaking into a new world?

In other news, you’ll be seeing some re-design going on with the site, so don’t let any changes scare you off! We’re just trying to make this as functional and beautiful as possible! We are also implementing regular posting schedule, as well as some creative ideas for our posts. So make sure you stop by more often!


Forgive me!

I’m playing with the site design, but we’ll have it settled shortly!




No, this isn’t that kind of self-exam. Sorry to disappoint!

For the last post of 2010, I thought it would be appropriate to look back at the various aspects of my life for which I have set goals. What have I accomplished? What do I need to continue to work on?

Family – I really haven’t set any particular goals toward improving my family life so far, but I really should focus on getting along better with my mom. We can be the best of friends at times, but lately it seems that we’re at odds, and every comment she makes just grinds on me. In 2011, I intend to forge a better relationship–by not taking her comments to heart, or perhaps by respecting particular comments more.

Career – Fortunately I have already made headway on this goal, as I secured my first full-time post-college job just a few weeks ago! I haven’t even been able to properly determine my feelings on the position yet since the first week our office was inundated with last-minute deadlines and was a source of constant stress, but since then most of my co-workers (and most of the work) have been gone for the holidays creating a false relaxed environment. However, I do need to start thinking what career path I would actually like to continue on–more on this in my Education section.

Health – I have really been putting forth a lot of effort toward this goal. In a previous post I mentioned taking ballerobica classes–and I’ve managed to stick with it! A quick tally: first week – 4 classes, second week – 2 classes (my first week of work–very hectic), third week – 7 classes, fourth week – 0 classes (the studio was closed for the holiday), fifth week – 6 classes (and the studio was only open 3 days!). So while I feel like I’m working my butt off, my butt hasn’t gone anywhere. I haven’t lost any weight! I’m definitely starting to think this is more of a medical issue. Hence my new goal (which is much more attainable now that I’ll be back on my mom’s insurance): see a doctor!

Finance – Well, as mentioned, I got a full-time job, complete with a salary! So I feel pretty confident in my finances now. However, I can see myself going on a few shopping sprees in the months to come. So my financial goal for 2011: save that money!

Recreation – For my dad’s Christmas gift, I purchased a Groupon (I can’t say enough good things about Groupon these days!) for the two of us to take glass classes together. We have been wanting to take stained glass classes for a while, and although this Groupon is mainly just for glass fusing and glass blowing classes, I think we’ll really enjoy trying a new hobby together!

Charity – This is a goal that could always use some work. I’d like to find a local organization to get involved with on a regular basis. I’ll definitely be doing some more research–and action–toward this one!

Travel – Here comes that word again: job. I’ve earned a total of about 2 hours of vacation time. I could possibly take a little stay-cation to the next town over! However, my job is currently only funded through the end of June (grant money, ya know), and while my employer is working to get more grant money to keep me longer, I may have more opportunity to travel later this year. My family is talking about doing another cruise–I’m hoping for northern Europe, like Scandinavia and Russia–but I’d also like to visit my good friend in England. And to combine financial and travel goals, I’m setting up a savings account to contribute to each paycheck that will be reserved only for travel.

Education – I thought I had this one all figured out. I just completed two bachelor degrees–journalism and psychology–and last year I even applied to a few graduate programs. However, one thing I’ve learned this past year is that I can’t commit to a graduate program yet because I don’t even know what I want to do! So my current plan: since I work for the university, I can take classes on the cheap. I’m going to take a creative writing workshop class this semester! (Honestly, I am a good writer, I just haven’t exercised my writing juices enough, and this blog is going to be great practice as well, so bare with me if my writing is a little blah for a while).

Romance – I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years, and I love him to death. I’m not sure what specific goals I have in this department, but I know that our relationship could definitely be improved upon. Lemme think on this one and get back to you.

Relationships – Here’s another I thought I was on top of. However, a few recent events around me have got me to thinking. What kind of friendship am I putting out into the world? Throughout the year I can easily see what my friends could have done better in our friendship, but now is the time to look at myself. I want to be someone my friends will call after a long day to wind down. I want to be someone my friends will come to for advice–whether I’m older or younger than they are. I want to be someone my friends will turn to in an emergency. I want to be someone my friends will call for a last-minute happy hour. Is this the friendship I’m providing? The plan for 2011 is to be that person. I can’t control the kinds of people my friends are, but I can control the kind of friend I am.

So tell me, what goals do you have for the new year? The standard New Year’s resolutions, or more in-depth goals? How can you see the new year being a catalyst for change in your life?

I love you all,